Babyproofing Your Marriage: How to Laugh More and Argue Less as Your Family Grows by unknow

Author:unknow
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9780061173554
Amazon: B003F76FUY
Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks
Published: 2008-02-05T05:00:00+00:00

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Babyproofi ng Your Marriage

. . . Five Minutes Later

Get Out of Mommy Mode: Reclaim Your Sexuality

The whole blowjob thing is well and good. It works, but that’s slightly

beside the point. It’s a stopgap. A Band-Aid. The real questions are a lot

harder. Girls, don’t we all deserve to have a good sex life? Shouldn’t we

aspire to have great sex rather than marriage-maintenance sex? Or at least

to have great sex a few times a year?

• What makes you feel sexy these days?

•

What

would

really put you in the mood?

The three of us asked ourselves these questions and couldn’t answer them.

We looked at each other blankly. We stared at the ceiling. The girl who

used to feel that way seemed like an old friend we hadn’t heard from in

a long time. Men are not miracle workers. If we do nothing to maintain

our sense of self and just surrender completely to being Mommies, how

can we expect them to make us feel sexy and desirable? We all have to

pull ourselves far enough out of the mommy vacuum to reclaim at least

a portion of our sexual, vital selves.

We asked our friends what they do to get themselves in the mood.

Here are some of their recommendations:

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“We get a room in a hotel. The sex is great and the room service

is even better.”

“I read a dirty beach book or sometimes even The Joy of Sex

(best done with a glass of wine) and earmark the pages for him

to read.”

“I wear sexy underwear all day. I splurge a little on this. If you’re

going to do this, don’t cheap out, because by 6:00 p.m., you’ll

feel itchy, not sexy.”

“Sometimes I go to bed naked. My husband likes the ‘surprise’

when he gets in bed, and it helps me get revved up faster.”

“When I am in the changing room at the gym I take a good look

at the other women. This is what real women look like. Not like

the stick insects in magazines and on television. I realize that I

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